Dear Ophelia

Ophelia, the best thing you can do for now is listen to your father and brother, they do know what is best for you. If along the road, the man that claims he loves you still loves you, and you feel the same way, approach your family directly and discuss the matter rationally. You are right to think that you should be allowed to date him, because it is ultimately your decision. And the fact of the matter is, just because they hate him doesn't mean you have to. Follow your gut feeling, but follow the boundaries set as well. Don't take it too far and appreciate that your father and brother are trying to protect you.